The Guidance of Parents

June 29, 2009 at 11:28 pm | Posted in Block Off Communications, Good Inventory, Good Relationships, Next-door Neighbor, Parent’s Guidance, Parent’s Presence, Spared Scrutiny | Leave a comment
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As they come to know better who they are, adolescents form their own value system.  Their world starts expand.  Teens accept some ways of doing things, modify others, and discard a few.  Even their own parents values are not spared scrutiny.

 

Teenagers try out which values are for them, they ask “situational questions” or questions that occur them as they live their lives.  The presence of parents is important.  Teens need someone to answer these questions.  Parents need to give their children a good inventory of values, not just values from the television or the next-door neighbor.

 

Sometimes, teenagers may ask what seem like silly questions.  Don’t just shrug these off or give flippant answers.  These questions are very important to them.  Building a good relationship with them means being open to their ideas.  Answer their questions honestly, without laughing at them or trivializing them.  These reactions tend to block off communications.  Also, they express disrespect for the children’s feeling.  When asked, just reply.

How to raised Well-Adjusted Children (2 to 2)

June 14, 2009 at 12:11 pm | Posted in Bigger Things, Little Games, Long Way, New People, Simple Household Chores, Yunger Children | Leave a comment
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While teaching the child to do specific chores, make them look fun. When teaching him how to clean the house, give him his personal broom and rag. When preparing his baon for school, teach him to wrap his sandwich with a paper napkin or wax paper, or stir the milk or juice drink. These little games will go a long way not just in teaching the child the meaning of responsibility and self-reliance, but also in making him more eager to attend school.

Adjusting to a new environment like school is often difficult for most children, particularly, younger children. Apprehension or fear is not unusual when a child is going to school for the first time. Most often, your child’s fear stems from being left alone where he no longer feels secure, where people feed and care for him and where he is the center of his own safe universe.

Giving a child simple household chores and teaching him to trust his own capabilities can make the adjustment easier. Once a child learns to trust himself in small things, trusting himself in the bigger things—like going to school, meeting “teacher” and “classmates” and other new people—becomes easier.

When your child discovers the meaning of responsibility and self-reliance early in life, he deepens his understanding of what it takes or live a comfortable and orderly life; learns that some things must be done, that all the family member must share in the workload equally, and that doing chores together strengthens the bond among family members. He learns to put value on extending and receiving help. More importantly, he learns to trust himself.

Once armed with that self-confidence, there is simply nothing that your child cannot do, no environment that he cannot conquer.

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