Parents’ spats not good for kids
March 4, 2010 at 12:42 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a commentTags: Kids, Parents
Good morning everyone. Children who worry a lot about conflicts between their parents are more likely to have problems in school, according to a new study.
The study, conducted by researchers at the University of Rochester, Syracuse University, and the University of Notre Dame, found that this happens because such kids have more difficulty paying attention to the tasks before them.
This study is one of the first to chart how children”s concerns about their parents” relationship may increase their vulnerability to later adjustment problems.
For the study, researchers looked at a group of 216 predominantly White 6-year-olds, their parents, and their teachers annually over a three-year period.
Children were evaluated to determine their negative thoughts and worries about how their parents got along, based on how they completed unfinished stories about conflicts between parents.
Teachers reported on children”s ability to get along with their classmates and take part in class activities, and on their behaviour as a measure of how they had adjusted to school.
Specifically, they were asked whether the children were cooperative with peers, followed teachers” directions, used classroom materials responsibly, and usually acted appropriately.
Children”s attention problems were assessed through reports by parents and computerized measures of how they were able to focus and sustain attention.
The researchers found that kids who had concerns about how their parents got along had more attention problems a year after the concern was first identified, according to the study.
These attention problems, in turn, were linked to reports by teachers that the children had problems adjusting to school in the same year and one year later.
Attention difficulties accounted for an average of 34 percent of the relationship between children”s worries about their parents and school problems.
In many cases, children”s negative thoughts were based on witnessing actual relationship problems between parents, and the study suggests that the children may have used the negative thoughts to help them cope with stress in high-conflict homes. – The Times of India
The study appears in the September/October 2008 issue of the journal Child Development.
Stay-at-home parents are most stressed
February 23, 2010 at 2:33 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a commentTags: Home, Parents, Stress
Good morning friends. Do you believe that if parents stayed at home they are most likely stressed. Yes, sometimes it is right. Parents do get stressed with their kids. We all know kids are so playful. They run around, climb up anywhere, play with mud and many others. With that parents do get stressed for controlling their kids.
Parents who stay at home and look after the household are the most stressed out, a new UK study claims.
According to a research conducted by Mindlab Organisation, mothers or fathers who do household chores are more frazzled than those with traditionally high-pressure jobs, like city trading, teaching or nursing.
Stress levels were investigated in British adults as per their “work” roles – stay-at-home parents, taxi drivers, teachers, nurses and city dealers.
The conclusion was reached by measuring levels of the stress hormone cortisol throughout an average working day. It was found that stay-at-home parents proved to be the most under pressure. Nurses ranked second in the list, followed by the traders, then teachers and finally, taxi drivers.
A bio-monitoring equipment was used to measure and record the heart rate and skin conductance. The participants were connected to the equipment and tested over a seven-hour period.
Also, samples of saliva were taken at crucial junctures during the day to measure cortisol, which is a direct indicator of stress. “The key here is the degree of control each of these professionals feel able to exercise over their lives,” the Daily Express quoted Dr David Lewis, who was part of the research, as saying.
“Stay-at-home parents receive little or no specific training and are furthermore typically isolated from other adults for much of the day,” he added.
Psychologist Jenni Trent Hughes said: “The answer is simply to be selfish and take some time out. After 21 years of running around after the family, pets, supermarket and the house, women have earned it.
“If you’re not taking care of your- self then how can you properly take care of anyone else?
“If you’re ratty or short-tempered, tired or at your wits’ end how can you possibly be the best you can be for your partner, children, family and last but definitely not least yourself?” – The Times of Inida
A new self
July 2, 2009 at 2:46 pm | Posted in Forming Life Goals, Fresh Insight, Integrated Thoughts, New Ideas, Silent Wish, Uncomfortable Feelings | Leave a commentTags: Adolescent, Adult, Bit Afraid, Closeness, Communication, Concepts, Dark Cave, Directions, Exhilarated, Feelings, Goal, Guidance, Ideas, Immaturity, Less Talk, Life, Life Goal, Maturity, Mind, More Complex, Parents, Rebellion, Sensitive, Thoughts, Wish
Think of someone who has lived in a dark cave all his life who one day emerges into the bright light of noon. This may be an apt analogy for a teenager who is now beginning to think in abstracts, of concepts and ideas. His thoughts are becoming more integrated, more complex.
So he begins wanting to be alone most of the time, to talk less, he may even become irritated when disturbed from his reverie. Parents must understand that their kids are not really angry or are being aloof. They just want space for their thinking.
Adolescents are very sensitive to stimuli. They are both exhilarated and a bit afraid as they try to comprehend the changes in their bodies, the new ideas in their minds, and the fresh insight into people and events.
They also experience conflicting struggles between rebellion against adult control and the need for guidance and directions, between testing the limits to longing for their parents to set guidance as a sign that they still care; between feeling uncomfortable when their parents get too near and a silent wish for their closeness; between plans for the future and the uncertainties of the present; between sexual maturity and immaturity.
Most adolescents seem to not even want to mention the subject in front of their parents. But parents should not just heave a sigh of relief and think. Thank God that’s taken care of!” it’s not ideal for teeners to learn about this most important subject through other sources. Parents and child need to communicate about sex and the values associated with it. It is better for children this way before they come across corrupted versions elsewhere.
One of the last things adolescents go through is forming life goals. Again, this is not an easy task. But when they start thinking about the future, they are starting to show some maturity. – Geroge Amurao
How to raised Well-Adjusted Children (1 of 2)
June 13, 2009 at 1:21 pm | Posted in Actual Demonstration, Better Equipped, Good Example, More Families, More Responsible, New Environment | Leave a commentTags: Bath, Brushing Teeth, Childdren, Combing Hair, Daily Routine, Demonstration, Doing HOmework, Dress Up, Dressing Up Himself, Eat and Drink, Encouragement, Learning Process, Learning Things, Maid, Necessity, Parents, Responsible, Self-confidence, Self-reliance, Self-responsibility, Sense of Responsibility, Successful Adult, Toilet, Use of Spoon and Fork, Vocabulary, Washing Face, Way of Life, Well-adjusted, Yaya
Many parents in the 90s encourage self-reliance and responsibility in their children as a way of life and also out of necessity. In more and more families, both parents go to work, and children are quite often left at home during certain hours of the day with only a maid or yaya in the house to care for them.
Learning self—reliance early in life—such as dressing up by himself or doing his homework on his own—prepares your child to become a more responsible and successful adult. He gains self-confidence and a sense of responsibility. He will be better equipped to adjust quickly to a new environment.
But how do you provide your child with the skills necessary for him to become successful and well-adjusted?
The first mistake most parents make is to rush their child into learning. Teach him one skill at a time. You are grapping with a mind and vocabulary much more limited than yours. Remember that a seven—year—old will learn things and concepts much faster than, say, a two—year—old.
Between the ages of 4 to 5, the child must be taught to do the following for himself; use the toilet, bathe, dress up, use a spoon and fork, eat and drink, comb his hair, brush his teeth, wash or wipe his face and keep himself clean. These are best taught through actual demonstration and good example. If your child saw you doing these things naturally as part of your daily routine, it would be easy for him to adopt them. As long as he makes progress, you must not fret and fuss.
But generous with praise when the child masters a skill. This will encourage him and make the learning process easier for you both.
Good Study (1)
May 30, 2009 at 3:31 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a commentTags: Child's Personality, Children, Good Grades, Good Learning, Good Life, Good Study, Kids, Parents, School, School Lessons, Study Skills, Teachers, Youth
Good morning everybody. To have a good life, we should have a good study. This is much best implies to kids. We should tell our kids, the importance of good study. They should be aware what will be the result if they have this good study. As they were a kid, they don’t mind that much. They will only feel the goodness of studying when they grow up. But for me, it’s the best that they should start while they were still young.
It has been said time and time again by parents, teachers, and school principals: “Good study habits make for good learning and good grades.” Of course, they’re right. But what exactly are good study habits and how do we get kids to practice them?
According to Jean Serrano, director of The Tutoring Club Philippines – Rockwell, there are quite a few and as she emphasized, “There’s no ONE study system that works for all children.”
Thus, Serrano encourages parents to develop a system that is customized to each child’s personality. It doesn’t even have to conform to what parents think is the right study habit. Says Serrano, “Should you let your child study in front of the TV? If it helps your child focus and study better, why not?”
However, before leaving your child to this kind of unconventional study setting, Serrano recommends that you ingrain structured study skills in your child first. Once he knows what it takes to learn his school lessons, then you may slacken the reins; but make sure though that you stay within reach. A child’s education should after all, be a collaboration between his teacher and parents. – Cecile Jusi Baltasar (Manila Bulletin)
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