Parents’ spats not good for kids
March 4, 2010 at 12:42 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a commentTags: Kids, Parents
Good morning everyone. Children who worry a lot about conflicts between their parents are more likely to have problems in school, according to a new study.
The study, conducted by researchers at the University of Rochester, Syracuse University, and the University of Notre Dame, found that this happens because such kids have more difficulty paying attention to the tasks before them.
This study is one of the first to chart how children”s concerns about their parents” relationship may increase their vulnerability to later adjustment problems.
For the study, researchers looked at a group of 216 predominantly White 6-year-olds, their parents, and their teachers annually over a three-year period.
Children were evaluated to determine their negative thoughts and worries about how their parents got along, based on how they completed unfinished stories about conflicts between parents.
Teachers reported on children”s ability to get along with their classmates and take part in class activities, and on their behaviour as a measure of how they had adjusted to school.
Specifically, they were asked whether the children were cooperative with peers, followed teachers” directions, used classroom materials responsibly, and usually acted appropriately.
Children”s attention problems were assessed through reports by parents and computerized measures of how they were able to focus and sustain attention.
The researchers found that kids who had concerns about how their parents got along had more attention problems a year after the concern was first identified, according to the study.
These attention problems, in turn, were linked to reports by teachers that the children had problems adjusting to school in the same year and one year later.
Attention difficulties accounted for an average of 34 percent of the relationship between children”s worries about their parents and school problems.
In many cases, children”s negative thoughts were based on witnessing actual relationship problems between parents, and the study suggests that the children may have used the negative thoughts to help them cope with stress in high-conflict homes. – The Times of India
The study appears in the September/October 2008 issue of the journal Child Development.
22% of kids 9 to 17 say, “I can hardly wait to be on my own”
August 10, 2009 at 11:02 pm | Posted in Categories: Harmless Play-acting, Deeper Intimacy, New Things | Leave a commentTags: Adulthood, confidence, Human Relationship, Intimacy, Kids, One-night Stand, Overall Happiness, Play-acting, Serious Consequences, Solid connections, Teens
What may see like harmless play-acting actually has serious consequences. “Instead of trying out a range of new things and building confidence that way, kids are borrowing identities from celebrities,” say Borba. “They’re racing into adulthood before they’ve learned to feel safe about who they are.”
The ability to form solid connections with others, so important to overall happiness, is also suffering: “Teens are hooking up and having one-night stands and not developing relationships,” says Borba. “One of the reasons is they’re seeing so much sex everywhere.” As a consequence, the far deeper importance of intimacy in human relationships is lost.
We can’t pull our kids out of the world they live in. They’ll be tempted by the lingerie, the makeup, the out-there screen savers, the grinding on the dance floor. But there are specific ways to equip them to deal with the pressures and to make sure that they stay kids. Take a look at what may be happening in your child’s life and what you can do.
Good Study (1)
May 30, 2009 at 3:31 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a commentTags: Child's Personality, Children, Good Grades, Good Learning, Good Life, Good Study, Kids, Parents, School, School Lessons, Study Skills, Teachers, Youth
Good morning everybody. To have a good life, we should have a good study. This is much best implies to kids. We should tell our kids, the importance of good study. They should be aware what will be the result if they have this good study. As they were a kid, they don’t mind that much. They will only feel the goodness of studying when they grow up. But for me, it’s the best that they should start while they were still young.
It has been said time and time again by parents, teachers, and school principals: “Good study habits make for good learning and good grades.” Of course, they’re right. But what exactly are good study habits and how do we get kids to practice them?
According to Jean Serrano, director of The Tutoring Club Philippines – Rockwell, there are quite a few and as she emphasized, “There’s no ONE study system that works for all children.”
Thus, Serrano encourages parents to develop a system that is customized to each child’s personality. It doesn’t even have to conform to what parents think is the right study habit. Says Serrano, “Should you let your child study in front of the TV? If it helps your child focus and study better, why not?”
However, before leaving your child to this kind of unconventional study setting, Serrano recommends that you ingrain structured study skills in your child first. Once he knows what it takes to learn his school lessons, then you may slacken the reins; but make sure though that you stay within reach. A child’s education should after all, be a collaboration between his teacher and parents. – Cecile Jusi Baltasar (Manila Bulletin)
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