Raised Well-Adjusted Children (1 of 2)
June 5, 2010 at 7:09 am | Posted in Well-adjusted Children | Leave a commentTags: Environment, Maid or Yaya, Responsibility, Self-confidence, Self-reliance, Sense of Responsibility, Well Adjusted Children
Good morning everyone. Of course we love our kids, right? No parents don’t love their children.
Many parents in the 90s encourage self-reliance and responsibility in their children as a way of life and also out of necessity. In more and more families, both parents go to work, and children are quite often left at home during certain hours of the day with only a maid or yaya in the house to care for them.
Learning self—reliance early in life—such as dressing up by himself or doing his homework on his own—prepares your child to become a more responsible and successful adult. He gains self-confidence and a sense of responsibility. He will be better equipped to adjust quickly to a new environment.
But how do you provide your child with the skills necessary for him to become successful and well-adjusted?
The first mistake most parents make is to rush their child into learning. Teach him one skill at a time. You are grapping with a mind and vocabulary much more limited than yours. Remember that a seven—year—old will learn things and concepts much faster than, say, a two—year—old.
Between the ages of 4 to 5, the child must be taught to do the following for himself; use the toilet, bathe, dress up, use a spoon and fork, eat and drink, comb his hair, brush his teeth, wash or wipe his face and keep himself clean. These are best taught through actual demonstration and good example. If your child saw you doing these things naturally as part of your daily routine, it would be easy for him to adopt them. As long as he makes progress, you must not fret and fuss.
But generous with praise when the child masters a skill. This will encourage him and make the learning process easier for you both.
End of Part 1
Kid-ding Around with Housework (1)
June 4, 2009 at 4:20 am | Posted in Better Place, Constant Source of Irritation, Favorite Book, Few Tasks, Primary Tasks, Simple Reason, Younger Si8blings | Leave a commentTags: Books, Child-friendly, Countless Ways, Environment, Fun Games, Household Chores, Housework, Husehold Tasks, Siblings, Source of Irritation, TV Programs
When you were kids, you probably heard your parents complain that you never did anything “to help around the house”. Today, we’re still telling our kids to clean their rooms, help set the table and do other household chores. And when we do, we still hear them ask, “Me? Now? Why?” or worse, they “pass the buck” to younger siblings.
Kids detest housework for the simple reason that it interferes with their free time. If Mama calls them in to help set the table when they’re out playing, or Papa asks them to help wash the car when they’re engrossed in their favorite book or T.V. program, they will simply not respond, no matter the amount of cajoling of threats.
The key to converting your kids is by transforming household tasks into fun games. One of the primary tasks of parenting is to bring up your children to be responsible, confident, happy and independent. What better place to start than at home?
The first thing to remember is not to treat your kids like little adults. Make each chore child-friendly. For instance, don’t tell your young child to clean the bathroom. Instead, assign only a few tasks a child can easily handle, such as washing the sink, putting away the toothbrushes or polishing the bathroom mirror. Make sure that the environment, too, is child-friendly; don’t expect your child to put the tooth-cabinet where they belong. Give her a stool to stand on, or lower the shell to a height she can reach.
Make household chores fun and easy for your child. If the putting away of toys is a constant source of irritation between you and your child, try this: buy a big box (one used to pack canned good or bottles in), wrap it in brown paper and let the child draw pictures on it or decorate it. Let them imagine that the box is a truck or wagon, decorate it accordingly, and push it around the house, picking up their toys as they go. Or they can pretend that they are robots or wind-up toys who pick things up. In setting the table, provide a model to copy. Cut out paper placemat and paste them onto a piece of cardboard to guide the child. There are other countless ways to encourage kids to help around the house.
Secure and loving relationship with parents tend to be smarter (1)
May 23, 2009 at 1:54 am | Posted in Constructive Pursuit of Things, Positive Thinking, Rich Environment, Younger Kids | Leave a commentTags: Brain, Brain Connections, Child Language Development, Complex Reasoning, Educational, Educational Storytelling, Environment, Fractions, Geometry, Group Singing, Language Development, Math Reasoning, Music, Preschoolers, Puzzles, Ratios, Rhymes, Singing, Songs, Spatial-temporal Reasoning, Stimulating Environment, Wordplay Games
Creating a stimulating environment
There are many ways parents can provide a rich environments that will stimulate their children mentally. Singing lullabies to your infant stimulates the development of brain connections, particularly during the first three years of life. Wordplay games in the form of rhymes or songs that you make up with your child encourage language development. So does using complex, multiclass sentences, such as “I’m going to the grocery store because we need cereal for breakfast.” As opposed to the simple, single-clause declaration “drink your milk.”
At least once a week, take your children to the library to read on their own or attend a storytelling allowances for shows that are positive and educational.
Introduce music and rhythm
Children should be given opportunities for the constructive pursuit of things they show an interest in. If music is one of these, encourage it. The younger your kids, the better. Research with preschoolers shows that enrolling them in keyboard and group-signing instruction enhances their spatial-temporal reasoning—a skill that helps with puzzles, geometry, fractions and ratios. Instruction in music also helps children develop in other areas, such as math and complex reasoning.
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