Behavior – Q & A
February 26, 2010 at 2:39 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a commentTags: Behavior, Good Behavior
Our second child, who is two, has cerebral palsy, and though his intelligence is normal, he’ll be in a wheelchair for the rest of his life. His 5-year-old brother keeps saying, “When Evan gets better…” We don’t want to mislead him, but is he ready for the harsh truth?
Trying to protect kids from major loss and trauma often backfires, say Barbara Coloroso, author of Parenting Through Crisis Helping Kids in Times of Loss , Grief, and Change (HarperResource). “Knowledge the truth may be frightening, but it’s much scarier not to know.” Explain simply what cerebral palsy is, using the real medical terms along with drawings. That way, he can be a buffer for his little brother, which will give him something positive to do. “Knowledge is power, and the words you give him now will be a part of his life story.” He needs to know what his brother will be able to do (“Evan’s not going to be able to run and play, but he’s going to grow and develop and love you and fight will you”) as well as what the doctors are doing to help him. He also needs to know that it’s O.K. for him to do things that this brother can’t do. most of talk, he needs your humor and your optimism.
Behavior
January 4, 2010 at 1:37 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a commentTags: Behavior
Our second child, who is two, has cerebral palsy, and though his intelligence is normal, he’ll be in a wheelchair for the rest of his life. His 5-year-old brother keeps saying, “When Evan gets better…” We don’t want to mislead him, but is he ready for the harsh truth?
Trying to protect kids from major loss and trauma often backfires, say Barbara Coloroso, author of Parenting Through Crisis Helping Kids in Times of Loss , Grief, and Change (HarperResource). “Knowledge the truth may be frightening, but it’s much scarier not to know.” Explain simply what cerebral palsy is, using the real medical terms along with drawings. That way, he can be a buffer for his little brother, which will give him something positive to do. “Knowledge is power, and the words you give him now will be a part of his life story.” He needs to know what his brother will be able to do (“Evan’s not going to be able to run and play, but he’s going to grow and develop and love you and fight will you”) as well as what the doctors are doing to help him. He also needs to know that it’s O.K. for him to do things that this brother can’t do. most of talk, he needs your humor and your optimism.
Mom-kid attachment, good friendship, precious moment
May 27, 2009 at 4:08 pm | Posted in Better Language Ability, Emotional Relationship, Feelings of Happiness, Guiding Children, More Positive Friendship, Secure Relationship, Securely Attached | Leave a commentTags: Behavior, Children, Close Friendships, Competence, Emotional Communication, Friendship, Happiness, Language Ability, Mother-child Relationship, Mothers, Negative Emotions, Positive Emotions, Positive Friendship, Toddlers
Toddlers who are strongly attached to their mothers are more likely to form closer friendships in the early grade-school years. Mother-child relationships may be important in guiding children’s outlook towards other close relationships.
“In a secure, emotionally open mother-child relationship, children develop a more positive, less biased understanding of others, which then promotes more positive friendships during the early school years.” Children who were securely attached at age three showed more open emotional communication with mothers and better language ability.
It was found that open emotional communication at age four and a half was related to mother- and teacher-reported friendship quality via the child’s general peer competence in first grade. “When kids feel comfortable talking about their emotions, especially their negative emotions, it increases their social competence with classmates and leads to closer friendships.”
The way children interpret other people’s behavior may begin to develop in the context of early relationships in the family, and these interpretations may be important for a child’s ability to get along with friends later on”.
With this open emotional communication, mother-child relationship will stay as good as it is and the feelings of happiness will always be felt.
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